Congratulations, your child has started 1st grade! Bows, costumes have been bought, bouquets have been presented, and 11 years of study are ahead. How can I help a child adapt at the very beginning of his school career? How to quickly get used to a new environment for him and keep his interest in studying for years? Here are some tips that will help you.
"Now you are very big and a new stage of life begins!"
Parents and especially relatives who are impressed by the child's growing up often overburden him with expectations and forecasts related to the new status of a student. For example: "You have to wake up fast / eat well/ get dressed faster, no one will wait for you at school!", "You don't have to offend your little sister, you're already big!".
Try to reduce your pedagogical pressure during this difficult period for the child, on the contrary. If by this point the child does not know how to do something or does not obey very well, be lenient with him. You have already had and will have a lot of time to correct unwanted behavior. No need to try to fix everything by putting pressure on the child and blackmailing or even threatening to fail at school. This will only increase the child's anxiety and may even cause disgust at the new role of the student. "I don't want to go to this school at all!" Such rejection is more difficult to correct.
A junior high school student is still a child
His leading motivation has just shifted or is still shifting from gaming to learning. Do not try to make the room completely "working" right away. Do not rush to throw away toys that are no longer as necessary as before - let his "friends" from childhood be with the child during the first days of school.
Some schools offer various joint holidays or dating programs with animators. Do not neglect them or even offer to arrange for the children to meet in an informal setting. At least invite 1-2 classmates to visit you. After playing together, children will be able to get to know each other better, and going to class with friends is much more enjoyable, more fun and more desirable.
Not all at once
You should not start several global projects at the same time. If the child has already studied, for example, at a music school, then classes, of course, should not be abandoned. If you were planning to start classes with the school, then it is better to postpone it until the second grade, when the child gets used to the new type of workload and responsibility. This does not apply to more recreational or athletic activities.
Clear and understandable
Try to make the child's schedule as clear and predictable as possible. Don't forget about the importance of sleep! A primary school student needs at least 10 hours of sleep per day. A child who gets enough sleep copes better with the load, it is easier for him to learn new material and solve various tasks, both educational and social. Make a daily routine with your child. It is possible on separate small pieces of paper, each of which indicates one thing and the time. As the tasks are completed, the pieces of paper will be transferred from the "need to do" pocket to the "done" pocket. Or arrange the schedule in the form of a beautiful table. Do not forget to write down the time, even if the baby is still not very well versed in the clock. Your watch won't be superfluous either.
Love and support
Be attentive to your child. Signs of stress may include increased aggressiveness or frequency of moods, unwillingness to obey, or, conversely, excessive passivity of the child. Don't ignore his complaints. Active listening techniques will help you describe what happened and what exactly upset the baby, when you do not ask questions, but describe what you see, hear and support the story with the words "uh-huh ...", "it wasn't easy!", "yes, I understand, what else?" and others. In addition, try to find out from the teacher what happened, whether any help is needed from you or from psychologists.
It will also be great if, at the end of the day, you become accustomed to discussing with your child what was good about the day and what failures there were. Moreover, it is better to start with yourself, describe a couple of events from your past day and only then ask the child what he liked today and what he didn't like.
The issue of control
To make the child feel like an adult and to give his sense of responsibility a place to develop, give him the opportunity to choose as often as possible. "The clothes for school are on this shelf, what to wear, you can choose for yourself"; "do you want to have lunch first or relax?". If homework is being set in your class, try to show with your appearance and attitude that you believe in the child's ability to cope on their own. Never do tasks for a child! If they seem excessive or very difficult to you, it is better to contact the teacher, let him work with the child after lessons – it is his duty to convey knowledge to each student. An honestly earned three is always more useful than a "daddy's" five. A person must necessarily face the consequences of their actions! The feeling of helplessness that develops when nothing depends on the child's actions can lead to irresponsibility and even deep depression. If the child asks for help, do not refuse, try to figure out together how to complete the task, but the child must do it himself.
Adequate praise
Try to maintain the child's optimistic and positive outlook on learning. Praise him for what was really difficult for him, and for the effort, if any. Express your attitude if you don't like something, but don't make far-reaching predictions. Compare: "You did everything very carelessly! How will you continue to study? Do you want to become a two-man??" and "You completed this task sloppily. It looks like you didn't try too hard this time. I'm afraid you might not get a very good grade for this assignment."
One more point. Try to pay the child's attention to what was done well. This will teach him to focus on the good and subconsciously strive for the ideal.: "Look, these and these letters turned out just fine!"
I wish you and your children success on this difficult but exciting path, and if necessary, we will be happy to help!
The teacher knows his job
If your child has gone to school, it means that you have chosen this particular form of education for him, and not at home. If you know better how to teach a child to read and write and how to add numbers, it's not too late to change your mind. Usually, teachers have some experience in the education of children, and interference in the learning process only causes irritation. But a positive approach with questions to the teacher "what's best?", "what do you recommend for ...?" and information about the peculiarities of your child's development and perception, on the contrary, will be gratefully received by the teacher.
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